Personal Branding Tip: Revisiting the 3 Questions

Can you answer these questions clearly, concisely, and consistently?

  1. Who am?
  2. What do I do?
  3. Why does it matter?

If you can, you’re one of the few. If you’re like most people, these questions are extremely difficult to answer. You might have an idea, but the ability to clearly articulate that idea may escape you. Don’t worry. Honestly, almost every company I’ve asked these same questions fail to answer then too—at first.

 

Why These Questions Matter

This is the fundamental stuff on which everything else is based. However, most of us never stop to really think about it. I know I didn’t. It wasn’t until I started breaking down brands with clients when I grasped the importance of understanding really knowing yourself. I remember asking, “what does your company actually exist—really?” When they couldn’t answer that I knew we had to go back to basics.

 

What I learned from those experiences is applicable far beyond the business world. As it turns out, we have been socialized not to truly know ourselves. I definitely believe that recently our culture is more tolerant of people exploring the things that make us happy and allow us to be our authentic selves. Historically, though, we have been trained to ignore or suppress our inner desires in order to procure secure work and provide for families, often at the expense of our health, sanity, and health. Times have changed. We now live in a world where we have the ability to craft our identity far beyond “what we do,” race, ethnicity, etc.

 

However, new worlds requires new talents, skills, and understandings. The average U.S. citizen will have ten jobs before they retire (if they retire). 3 in 4 of us are actively seeking new employment. We no longer identify primarily with our work or companies. Understanding these facts will help solidify the important of being able to know why you exist in this world (and it IS important that you exist in this world), what you bring to the table, and why you are the person to bring it.

 

How To Answer Them

When answering these questions, it’s important to hold close your values. The idea here is to uncover your essence. “I am a copywriter” is NOT the correct answer to “Who am I?” “I am a person who values clear communication and bridging the gap between people and their needs” is a better response. Try asking yourself theses questions and see what you come up with. Don’t identify with your job. Identify with you. Think back to your childhood. What brought you joy. What could you do for hours that made you forget about everything else. What do these things uncover about yourself in yourself? Once you think you have a solid answer, challenge yourself to go deeper and get even more real.

Recommended Book: Never Eat Alone

It s a shame I've been sitting on this book for about two years now. A friend of mine gave me Never Eat Alone , by Keith Ferrazzi a couple years ago (thanks Rey), and it s been on my bookcase ever since. It was resting there not because I didn't want to read it, but because I already had so many others in the pipeline. I finally got around to reading it last month and I definitely recommend it. In very simple terms, Ferrazzi explains why networking is important and how to do it. From how to make call lists to planning dinners to personal branding to goal setting, it s all here. He also maintains a valuable blog .

How To Deal With Setbacks

Inevitably there will be times when you have setbacks or things don t go your way. Maybe you didn't get a job you thought you were sure to get. Maybe you lost a job unexpectedly, didn't win a contract, or lost a major client. Your car always seems to break down right after you've had some other unexpected expense. These kinds of situations immediately place us in crisis. They don t feel good, but sometimes they re what we need in order to grow. The beautiful thing about crises is that they force us to take a step back and reevaluate what s going on in our lives and rediscover what we truly want and need. When we get over that initial shock and feeling of disappointment, we might realize that maybe that job wasn't really the best for us anyway. Maybe, just maybe, that wasn't what you really wanted to spend your life doing. Maybe that friend was holding you back instead of pushing you forward. The way I deal with crises of these sorts is simple: If something doesn't go my way professionally, I try to create a situation that would be more rewarding than the situation originally planned. A while ago, I was offered a job that looked very promising. After I accepted the offer, they pushed the start date back three times, later informing me (via e-mail) that they wanted to bring me on in the near future but I should feel free to explore other options. I was extremely disappointed. I felt disrespected and angry, but decided to make the best of the situation and follow my dream of working internationally. I then flew to Santiago, Chile and had great professional and personal experiences I wouldn't have had otherwise. Later, reflecting back on the original opportunity, I realized that working for a company that avoids a start date three times and then can t pick up the phone to explain the situation is probably not where I need to spend my time. Use setbacks as an opportunity to put your goals in order and act on them. In the moment, it s difficult to look at a setback as temporary, but they are. They happen to everybody. It s how you respond to them that will determine how they affect you.

Ordinary Things

A real artist can see a great beauty in very ordinary things.
— OUADY E.G

So simple. So Elegant.

I saw this lamp at a sports bar where I had a few weeks ago. I liked the permaculture-like approach to lamp design.