It s a shame I've been sitting on this book for about two years now. A friend of mine gave me Never Eat Alone , by Keith Ferrazzi a couple years ago (thanks Rey), and it s been on my bookcase ever since. It was resting there not because I didn't want to read it, but because I already had so many others in the pipeline. I finally got around to reading it last month and I definitely recommend it. In very simple terms, Ferrazzi explains why networking is important and how to do it. From how to make call lists to planning dinners to personal branding to goal setting, it s all here. He also maintains a valuable blog .
Inevitably there will be times when you have setbacks or things don t go your way. Maybe you didn't get a job you thought you were sure to get. Maybe you lost a job unexpectedly, didn't win a contract, or lost a major client. Your car always seems to break down right after you've had some other unexpected expense. These kinds of situations immediately place us in crisis. They don t feel good, but sometimes they re what we need in order to grow. The beautiful thing about crises is that they force us to take a step back and reevaluate what s going on in our lives and rediscover what we truly want and need. When we get over that initial shock and feeling of disappointment, we might realize that maybe that job wasn't really the best for us anyway. Maybe, just maybe, that wasn't what you really wanted to spend your life doing. Maybe that friend was holding you back instead of pushing you forward. The way I deal with crises of these sorts is simple: If something doesn't go my way professionally, I try to create a situation that would be more rewarding than the situation originally planned. A while ago, I was offered a job that looked very promising. After I accepted the offer, they pushed the start date back three times, later informing me (via e-mail) that they wanted to bring me on in the near future but I should feel free to explore other options. I was extremely disappointed. I felt disrespected and angry, but decided to make the best of the situation and follow my dream of working internationally. I then flew to Santiago, Chile and had great professional and personal experiences I wouldn't have had otherwise. Later, reflecting back on the original opportunity, I realized that working for a company that avoids a start date three times and then can t pick up the phone to explain the situation is probably not where I need to spend my time. Use setbacks as an opportunity to put your goals in order and act on them. In the moment, it s difficult to look at a setback as temporary, but they are. They happen to everybody. It s how you respond to them that will determine how they affect you.
“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness,” claims Thomas Jefferson in the United States Declaration of Independence. As much as I would like to agree that this statement from an all-so-important document in United Sates history is true, I can’t. I just can’t.
Access to crucial institutions and resources such as education, love, leadership, followership, art, literacy, health, and money are so widely varied that many have little to no chance to develop the opportunity to even dream of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. A few weeks ago, I participated in an activity that made this painfully obvious—again.
The world would be a very boring place if everybody were the same. If we all looked, behaved, dressed, and spoke the same way there would be no reason to explore what we all have to offer. We would never need to ask a question, because we’d all have the same set of information, perspectives, and opinions. How bland. Not only is it boring, but also a lack of diversity exposes us to all sorts of risks. Diversity of thought leads to innovation that solves or mitigates man of the world’s problems. Remember polio? The vaccine never would have been developed if nobody ever thought, “Hey, what if we fought the virus with the virus?”
We often say we value diversity, yet behavior often suggests otherwise. We, more often than not, gravitate towards people who remind us of ourselves. We form strong bonds with those who share our political views, sexuality, race, gender, schools, and geographic location. We often harm those we view as outsiders, whether it’s intentional or not. In doing so, we harm those in our group as well, making dissenters invisible and creating a culture in which fear of retribution prohibits people from speaking up. Things become more complicated when we analyze the interconnected roles discrimination play in perpetuating class disparity and access to resources and institutions. It’s a shame that it often takes a tragedy or catastrophe to make us realize that one thing that binds us together is that we’re all human.
A diversified portfolio is the one investment method we know works. Investing all of one’s money in one security exposes that person to unnecessary financial risk many of us aren’t willing to accept. So why do we put ourselves at such social risk? It’s not the world most people claim they want. But it’s the world we continuously create.
I am making a consious effort to better understand the complex outcomes that are derived of my actions. Maybe one day we will transcend the idea that we need to “tolerate” differences to the practice of “celebrating” them.
The day of TEDxSanAntonio 2011 has finally arrived. We’ve put a ton of work into this and hope you find the experience extremely rewarding. For those of you who can’t attend the event or watch the live feed, feel free to follow along with our live blog here. Leave your comments and join the conversation. We hope you enjoy. Also, feel free to watch the live video webcast at http://www.tedxsanantonio.com/webcast/.