It s a shame I've been sitting on this book for about two years now. A friend of mine gave me Never Eat Alone , by Keith Ferrazzi a couple years ago (thanks Rey), and it s been on my bookcase ever since. It was resting there not because I didn't want to read it, but because I already had so many others in the pipeline. I finally got around to reading it last month and I definitely recommend it. In very simple terms, Ferrazzi explains why networking is important and how to do it. From how to make call lists to planning dinners to personal branding to goal setting, it s all here. He also maintains a valuable blog .
Inevitably there will be times when you have setbacks or things don t go your way. Maybe you didn't get a job you thought you were sure to get. Maybe you lost a job unexpectedly, didn't win a contract, or lost a major client. Your car always seems to break down right after you've had some other unexpected expense. These kinds of situations immediately place us in crisis. They don t feel good, but sometimes they re what we need in order to grow. The beautiful thing about crises is that they force us to take a step back and reevaluate what s going on in our lives and rediscover what we truly want and need. When we get over that initial shock and feeling of disappointment, we might realize that maybe that job wasn't really the best for us anyway. Maybe, just maybe, that wasn't what you really wanted to spend your life doing. Maybe that friend was holding you back instead of pushing you forward. The way I deal with crises of these sorts is simple: If something doesn't go my way professionally, I try to create a situation that would be more rewarding than the situation originally planned. A while ago, I was offered a job that looked very promising. After I accepted the offer, they pushed the start date back three times, later informing me (via e-mail) that they wanted to bring me on in the near future but I should feel free to explore other options. I was extremely disappointed. I felt disrespected and angry, but decided to make the best of the situation and follow my dream of working internationally. I then flew to Santiago, Chile and had great professional and personal experiences I wouldn't have had otherwise. Later, reflecting back on the original opportunity, I realized that working for a company that avoids a start date three times and then can t pick up the phone to explain the situation is probably not where I need to spend my time. Use setbacks as an opportunity to put your goals in order and act on them. In the moment, it s difficult to look at a setback as temporary, but they are. They happen to everybody. It s how you respond to them that will determine how they affect you.
After building a successful career in advertising, Sitters evaluated what she was doing with her life. Her realizations led to her leaving the field in order to build the successful business Equisol, in which she works with people and animals to promote holistic health and living.
In continuing sharing stories that change lives, I feel honored to showcase Sylvia’s story here on Menrva Labs. She serves as an example of what a person can accomplish when they use their skills and passion to do what they know is right. Sitters risked prosperity, prestige, and security to stand alone in a world that values wealth and status.
Sylvia, thank you for taking the time to sit down with me to share your inspirational story. People like you encourage the rest of us to fulfill our potential. Thank you for having the courage to be you. Thank you for not compromising.
Contact Info:
Sylvia Chavez Sitters LMT
Intuitive Healer/Equine Therapist
equisolhealing@yahoo.com
210-861-7640
For the second consecutive year TED is returning to San Antonio in the form of TEDxSanAntonio. If you are unfamiliar with TED talks, I urge you to check out their website and videos at www.ted.com. As an attendee last year I found tremendous value in the speakers, attendees, and sense of community. There tagline is “Ideas big enough to change the world,” and that they are. While the talks were great, some of the most engaging conversations took place outside of the auditorium. Some of the people I met a year ago have grown into friendships and others have turned into colleagues.
This year I am fortunate enough to be able to help plan and organize this iteration of the event. We hope to make this year’s TEDxSanAntonio more accessible to the entire San Antonio community and have both speakers and an audience that is more representative of the population as a whole. The work is hard, but the dedicated, forward-thinking people who form the company of volunteers make it worth it. Also, it’s great to be a part of something so positive and influential within my community. There are plenty of volunteer opportunities available. If you’re interested in volunteering, our next meeting will take place on Thursday, June 16th, 2011 at the Tripont YMCA located at 3233 N. St. Mary’s, San Antonio, TX 78212. Feel free to contact me if you have any questions and I’ll put you in contact with the right people.
Resources:
TED Website: http://www.ted.com
TEDxSanAntonio Website: http://www.tedxsanantonio.com
TED on Twitter: http://twitter.com/tedtalks | http://twitter.com/tednews | @TEDTalks | @TEDNews
TEDxSanAntonio: http://twitter.com/tedxsanantonio |@TEDxSanAntonio | #TEDxSanAntonio
Organizers:
| Debbie Curtis | Todd O’Neill | Donna Tuttle | Susan Price | George Riley | Chris McDermott |
| @kitestringbyday | @toddfromnj | @writeontime | @firecatsue | @griley | @BeardyMcD |